Miscarriage Journal and Keepsake: A Gentle Companion for Pregnancy Loss at Any Week
Forty pages for anyone who has lost a pregnancy at any week. Permission-slip pages. A "what to say to people" script library. Physical recovery notes (by class, never by name). Commemorative pages. A page for the partner. A page for the next pregnancy, whenever that comes. Not a workbook. A companion.
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Most pregnancy “guides” stop at “if you are pregnant”. This one starts at “if you were, and now you are not”.
Pregnancy loss is more common than the rest of the world tends to discuss. About one in four recognized pregnancies ends in loss. The numbers do not make any single loss smaller. They mean a lot of people are carrying this, quietly, without anyone asking.
This companion is for any week of loss. Early loss, missed miscarriage, ectopic, stillbirth, termination for medical reasons. It does not assume a religion. It does not assume a family. It does not assume a “next time” or rule one out. It assumes you, here, in your body, today.
What’s inside
Forty pages:
- Before you open this. A short page with crisis numbers and a note: if you are in crisis, please call the lines listed, not just read this. The companion is for the long stretch, not the acute hour.
- Permission slips. Six pages. Things you are allowed to want. To rest. To not tell your boss. To skip the baby shower. To not have a “reason” for what happened.
- A “what to say to people” script library. The texts that come in. The “how are you” at the grocery store. The well-meaning relative who keeps asking. The pregnant friend who does not know what to say. Each one with a one-line, two-line, and “I cannot right now” version.
- Physical recovery, in plain language. What is generally expected. What is worth calling about. Class of help (warm baths, gentle movement) and a clear “ask your provider” for anything specific. No medicine names. No assumptions about what your provider has said.
- The pregnancy that did not finish. Pages to write, draw, or leave blank. A name, if you have one. A date, if you have one. What you felt for them.
- The partner page. Written for the non-birthing partner, who may also be grieving and is often handed the role of “be strong”. This page says: you are also allowed to be sad. Here are some words for that.
- A page for the people around you. Print it. Hand it out. Things friends do that help. Things friends do that don’t.
- The not-yet-next-pregnancy page. For whenever you are ready (in a week, in a year, never). It includes a script for the next first OB visit, when the question “is this your first” lands without warning.
- An anniversary page. For the date. For the due date. For whatever moments find you.
Before you buy
This is a companion. It is not a medical document and it is not a therapy substitute. If you are in any kind of crisis, please:
- Call 988 (US Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, 24/7, call or text)
- Call 1-833-852-6262 (US Maternal Mental Health Hotline, 24/7, free, confidential, for any parent at any stage including loss)
- Text HOME to 741741 (Crisis Text Line)
If you have heavy bleeding, severe pain, signs of infection, or anything physically worrying, please go to your provider or to an ER. Loss has medical aspects. Those are for a provider, not this companion.
Format
Instant-download PDF, US Letter + A4. Print the whole thing, or print the pages you need. Personal use only.
From Soothemade Notes, a small apothecary of printables, planners, and cards for the unphotographed parts of new parenthood. Made slowly, in plain language.
